“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream” - CS Lewis, novelist and scholar

Free winnable game plan coaching session

Do you have a winnable game plan for the serious games of your life (like relationships, health, career, money or sex)?

Is there an area of your life where you’re looking for more fulfillment or intimacy?

If you are living the life you had hoped for, then chances are you have followed a great game plan, even if you didn’t think of it in those terms.

For most people, however, life hasn’t turned out quite like they dreamed it would.

Many people are trying to play games they can’t possibly win in their careers, relationships, families and health.  If they could win, then it’s something that’s not worth winning, because deep down, it really doesn’t have deep meaning for them.

This causes a lot of suffering, because unwinnable games squelch creativity, cause overwhelm, and ramp up frustration, and leave you feeling isolated.

You may remember how someone once inspired and guided you or someone you know to achieve success in something.  Many men identify with this experience and seek mentors to help them at work, perhaps a personal trainer to help in the gym and a financial planners to guide them in achieving financial goals.

If you’re serious about a life that has more fulfillment, joy and intimacy then why not consider that a coach could help you in these and other areas of your life?

I’m pleased to offer you this free Winnable Game Plan coaching session that will help you make sure you are going after it in a way that empowers you to get the results you want.

What is life coaching?

Life coaching is about guiding you to play better in a winnable game that really matters to you.

A more formal definition of life coaching is a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires you to maximize your potential in all areas of your life.

A professional coach starts with the assumption that you are creative, resourceful and whole and then as your ally, he uses his skills such as intuitive listening and powerful questions to provide the right mix of support and challenge

A winnable game plan

First the fish has to say, “There’s something wrong with this camel ride, And I’m feeling so damned thirsty.” - from The Gift by Hafiz

If you are going after more fulfillment and intimacy in your life, it’s important that you have a winnable game plan. In other words, you need to be going after something that inspires you, that challenges you and that is realistic. Otherwise you’re setting yourself up for boredom or disappointment.

You may have fallen prey to an unfortunate myth that is widespread in our society that says if you’re an adult you should already know how to do something.

This is an unfortunate myth that may have been reinforced for you by experiences at a job or even with friends and family.

Among the ways a coach can help you is by giving you a space to apply nonjudgmental awareness to look at what’s working, and what’s not, in your life. Through this process you can identify the skills you can develop to make things work better.

You can let yourself off the hook. You don’t have to already know how to do the things needed to get the results you want. You can learn them along the way.

How it works

This “Winnable Game Plan” session will help you come up with a realistic plan—a winnable game plan– for getting what you want froma specific area of your life.

Applying the metaphor of a professional sport (like soccer or chess) to the serious things your life accomplishes several things:

1. Acknowledges that results matter – this is important to you
2. Acknowledges the importance of skill development, and of practice over time. Learning to play better is part of the game.   .
3. Motivates you to set it up so you experience joy in playing the game.   This may take some creativity but if you’re not having fun it becames more like the drudgery of a to do list – if you don’t stop trying althogether, you’ll probably be hearing that inner critic berate you for not getting enough done.
4. Encourages you to involve others in helping you win the games that are most important to you.

During this session we’ll have a powerful conversation that will help you to get more clarity on how to move forward in this area.  We’ll talk about your ideas for new directions, I’ll ask helpful questions and offer some feedback. Mainly, I’ll be helping you find your own answers and access your inner wisdom about the issue you choose to discuss.

The process

This session is conducted by phone at a time that is convenient for you.  It usually takes 30 to 40 minutes.  However, please schedule an hour, since I would hate to shortchange you if you would benefit from a little extra time.

What inspires you?  What game are you playing?

To create a winnable game plan, first we look at what inspires you? In what area of your life do you want to dream big, grow healthier or achieve a lot?  By doing so we figure out what game you’re playing, such as relationships, intimacy, business, health, finances or something else.

What is the object of the game?

Next we look more closely at the game you’re playing, in order to identify what you need to win:

1. Achievements and results
2. Activities
3. Skills
4. Character qualities

Often this process leads to some surprise discoveries since each person is unique the desired results can be different even when thing look the same on the surface.

Your current situation

By now we will probably have talked about your current situation already.

We’ll talk a little more about your

• Current commitments of time & energy
• Current challenges

We do this to make sure that what we’ve been talking about is realistic for you.  The game should be challenging and excing, and one that you are able to win.

This is important because it’s really easy to make a game unwinnable through mistakes like these

• Objectives are not clear
• It’s too much or too complicated
• It ignores the rest of your life

Don’t worry if  any of this seems complicated or you feel like you might get stuck on one of the steps.  Our discussion will make it simpler and easier. Also I’ll be able to help you if you get stuck on any of the steps.

After about 30 minutes we’ll have come up with a winnable game plan that will give you clarity about how to move forward and get more fulfillment in this area of your life.

Ongoing play

Then we’ll talk about playing the game over time including

• Even winnable games can be hard work
• The more you involve others and find ways to make it fun, the faster the progress
• What sort of support might you need to play this game and win?

We’ll also talk about the 4 ways to get better results in any serious game in your life:

1. Improve skills,
2. Craft a better game plan
3. Expand inner freedom (your inner game)
4. Designing a winning environment

At the end of this time, you will have greater clarity about this area of your life.

We’ll then spend a few more minutes answering any questions you have and discuss how coaching could work as an ongoing process for your success.  I am committed to respecting your confidentiality and this applies to this free session, too.

Appointments

This session is conducted by phone at a time that is convenient for you.  This session usually takes about 40 minutes.  However, please schedule a full hour for it.  I would hate to shortchange you if you would benefit from a some extra time.

This session is free.  If you live outside of the US or Canada, you will be responsible for longdistance telephone charges.

To schedule, this session, please contact me by filling out the contact form or by sending an email to Mark -at-. ListeningToYourLife.com or calling me at (617)642-7764.