Erotic Empowerment Program™

I work with gay and bisexual men, and couples, who are exploring new things erotically, and who want to become more confident and comfortable with some aspect of their sexuality.

Who it’s for

Erotic coaching is for men and couples who

  • Want to be more comfortable in your skin or with touching and being touched.  You might be on a sexual healing journey or dealing with sexual problems, or recovering from some kind of trauma.
  • Want to feel more pleasure in your body.   Shame and guilt might affect you more than you want.  Stress or anxiety might be making it hard to relax and enjoy sex.
  • Want to overcome sexual problems such as erection difficulties, premature ejaculation, shame and fear.
  • Want to create more intimacy in your sexual encounters or to put the spark back into a relationship.
  • Are confronting the changes that come with aging, and want to have a satisfying sexual experience for years to come.
  • You’ve noticed you’re drawn to people (men or women) who don’t fit your previous definitions of your sexual orientation and want support to explore what that means for you and what to do about it.
  • Want a wise and caring mentor as you explore new things erotically.  You might be interested in tantric spirituality and erotic practices, anal pleasure, better self-pleasuring or alternative sexuality (bondage, kink and fetish practices), or something else.
  • Want to talk openly about any sexual concerns in a safe and respectful setting where you can, question, explore, receive guidance and be heard

How it works

In erotic coaching sessions I work with you through experiential exercises and heartfelt conversation to support your growth and learning so that you can have the most juicy and satisfying erotic life possible.

Often other parts of our life get in the way of erotic satisfaction. This can be as simple as daily job stress or as complex and unnerving as traumatic experiences. It’s often helpful to clients to talk about these things so you can clear a path forward.  Any topic or aspect of your life is welcome in your sessions.

Fluent body awareness along with clarity about giving, receiving and being comfortable with negotiation are the most important keys to a juicy and fulfilling sexual experience. I’ve noticed that these skills  are rarely taught in our society even in sex-positive communities.  Most of us have some confusion about them.  This causes all kinds of problems with our erotic fulfillment.

Sessions often include breathing and body awareness exercises as well as negotiated interactive touch that supports you and your goals.  Interactive touch might include things like hand-holding, hugging, or bodywork. Each session is uniquely created to help meet your objectives. You always have a choice including the type of touch and whether or not to touch or be touched.

Nudity is not required in these sessions.  In fact, the most important things to learn about great sex can be learned with your clothes on.  Most likely you already know how to put the body parts together.

Coaching helps you find the playful connection with another, how to bring your touch and your heart to the interaction in a juicy way so you and your partner feel great all over and feel good about the experience.

As we work together over several sessions, there may be times when shedding some clothing is appropriate, such as for bodywork.  This will be discussed and you will always be supported in making your own choices.

What’s most important is that we do together will be mutually negotiated and it will depend on what will support your learning and growth.   I do not have sex with clients.

“Mark, you’re like the swiss army knife of coaches. You helped me with a wide range of topics—from motivation of work tasks and commitments, to very personal sexual stuff.”
– Bill, marketing professional, Boston MA

Sacred Intimacy

The term Sacred Intimate (SI) is often confusing because it has been used to describe many different types of sexual healing work.  Sacred Intimacy was first used by Joseph Kramer, the founder of the Body Electric School.

I consider myself a Sacred Intimate because I bring the sacred – a sense of heart and purpose – to all that I encounter, including sexuality.  Whatever your experience, I’ll support you in finding your truth, holding on to it and finding meaning in it, even in the face of challenge and when you feel alone with it.

Tantra for Men

Tantra is an ancient set of spiritual teachings and practices that include using one’s body and erotic energy to develop a juicy, joyful and satisfying life.  Another way to say it is that Tantra helps bring heart into sex as well as bringing your erotic energy into all aspects of your everyday life.

In North America, Tantra is often misunderstood, and even taught, as little more than techniques for better sex. It’s actually about much more.  While the work I do in private sessions and workshops draws on my studies in both historic and neo (new) tantric principles, I don’t specifically teach Tantra in its more complex, esoteric form.

Phone Coaching

Phone coaching is available for those too far away for studio sessions. It can also be a more economical approach for those with financial limitations.  I’ve found that many body-based techniques can be adapted to phone coaching sessions with a powerful impact.   In order to help you deepen body awareness during these sessions, I do not recommend the use of Skype.

Often a combination of phone coaching and studio sessions can be an effective and economical way to support your growth

Results oriented

The result for clients is that you experience significant forward movement toward the sexual fulfillment you deserve and long for.

While you will have important insights and learning from a single session, as with any modality or personal growth work, real transformation comes when you make a commitment to something and give it your focus over time.  Over a period of sessions, your commitment to homework and journaling assignments that we design together will help you achieve the change you desire more quickly.

Erotic coaching is no different.  You will notice the biggest changes come through a commitment to a series of sessions over time.

“Mark … listened intently to my words and to my body as he guided me to a point of total relaxation… I felt uninhibited, witnessed and loved. Toward the end of the session I reached a spiritual, emotional and physical place that left me calm and keenly aware of myself and the world around me. The effects lasted for many days, even through the stress of work and everyday life.”
– Andrew, Landscape Architect, Boston, MA

Your First Session

A significant portion of the first session (and some time during subsequent sessions) will be devoted to assessment. I need to understand how you experience your body in order to effectively help you.

These activities are fun and most people make new and helpful discoveries about themselves in the process.

Overall

These sessions are focused on your learning and growing healthier as an erotic being.  They offer you a confidential, non-judgmental, sensitive and professional approach to focus on sexuality and intimacy.   Together we create a partnership that supports your growth, learning, and healing.

Sessions and Fees

At this time the Erotic Empowerment Program™ is only available in a private format working with individuals and couples. At some future time, it may be available in a group class format, but n dates are currently planned.

Studio sessions

in Boston, MA and periodically in New York, NY

Individual:  90 minutes,  $180

Couples: 2 hours, $240

Phone sessions

Phone consultation is available worldwide.  Session structure and pricing for Erotic Empowerment phone sessions is the same as Life Coaching.

How to get started

We’ll start with a no-charge, no commitment phone conversation of up to 15 minutes to answer any questions you have and help me understand your goals.  Contact me.  Due to a full schedule, I’m rarely available on short notice, and you will need to book ahead, especially for studio sessions.

If the cost seems truly impossible for you please see the statement about financial challenges.

Other options

Reiki bodywork

If this seems too intense for you, or you are mainly looking for relaxation and stress reduction, you might consider Reiki bodywork and energy healing.

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